Infertility refers to an inability to conceive after having regular unprotected sex. Infertility can also refer to the biological inability of an individual to contribute to conception, or to a female who cannot carry a pregnancy to full term. In many countries, infertility technically refers to a couple that has failed to conceive after 12 months of regular sexual intercourse without the use of contraception.
According to The Mayo Clinic, USA:
– About 20% of cases of infertility are due to a problem in the man.
– About 40% to 50% of cases of infertility are due to a problem in the woman.
– About 30% to 40% of cases of infertility are due to problems in both the man and the woman.
Though hypnosis has been used in the cases of infertility, its use has been limited to assisting in-vitro fertilization (IVF). Even as the role of the mind-body connection is appreciated, the role of hypnosis in infertility is still being limited to the following:
i. The management of stress in the relationship arising due to infertility
ii. To handle the despair and loss of hope as the treatment period lengthens
iii. To deal with the negative impact on self-esteem and general well-being of the couple
iv. Using self-hypnosis for relaxation as a means of reducing anxiety and psychological stress related to painful and invasive medical procedures.The use of imagery and relaxation techniques have been of value in conjunction with procedures of Assisted Reproductive Techniques (ART).
Hypnosis can do a lot more in cases of infertility – going to the cause
Why does a couple find itself in a situation where it can’t produce a baby? We know what the pathology is. Given below are the reasons that work within the subconscious mind, giving the individual absolutely no clue about their presence. These are some of the reasons that we have come across from our practice of Hypnotherapy while dealing with couples with infertility issues –
Reasons arising from the man:
Why is a man not able to make his partner pregnant? What is in him, working at a subconscious level that does not want to start the proceedings of creation?
Is there a fear of taking up the responsibility of fatherhood? Does he not trust his partner of doing the job of conceiving perfectly and healthily? Is he for some reason hesitating in taking his relationship to a higher level? Has he seen traumatic upbringing either in himself or around him especially in relationship to his father or mother, and has a fear of it, so much so that he does not want to produce a child? Does he feel, due to some reason, that the world is not a safe place for his child to grow up in? Or is it a thought coming from a past life where he has had traumatic experience with child bearing/producing that he has decided that producing a child would not be a good idea. Is there a past life vow of being celibate? A fear of abandonment that makes him feel that he will be denied the attention of his partner after the child is born?
And remember, all these are coming from his subconscious and he has absolutely no knowledge of them. They do come out in a deep hypnotic trance.
Reasons arising from the woman:
The woman too may have her own fears – fear of getting pregnant or fear of the pain of labour. She may have a desire to be involved in her career and may feel that pregnancy and childbirth will impede her growth and progress. She may have low self-esteem and low confidence and may feel she is not capable of handling the process of creating and nurturing a child. There could even be a past life curse of being barren and infertile. She may have had a maiden life of being in a family of ‘higher’ culture and finance compared to her in-laws, and not wanting a child with the surname of her in-laws because she feels embarrassed or ashamed of the surname. It may just be her way of hitting back at her mother-in-law by not conceiving, the negativity possibly coming from a karmic backlog.
Reasons arising from both the man and the woman:
Here are subconscious thoughts that act on the couple as a team. If either has a subconscious thought that does not want to take their relationship to the next level, it may be resulting in infertility. Is there a mutual mistrust between them? Is there a competition between them and does the woman feel that getting ‘bogged down’ with the issues of child care will make her partner ‘rise higher’ in the field that they are competing in? Have the couple shared a past life where they have seen traumatic deaths or helpless deaths of their children and decided to come together as partners in our next life, but not bear children? Or is it a curse coming down the ancestral lineage?
Whatever be the thoughts in the subconscious, these thoughts manifest in the physical body and result in cases where in spite of ART there is repeated failure. For those who can’t afford ART, there is just trauma and despair.
Hypnosis and regression therapy help in these cases. They go the the causes and resolve them resulting in healing, even at the physical level. We have had cases where couples have benefited, not just in handling the trauma and despair, but also through conception. We have seen couples conceive naturally through our therapies without any medical help.
So if you are having infertility issues or know someone who is going through the ordeal, consider Hypnosis and Regression therapy. They work wonderfully and naturally.
-Dr Rupinder Singh Sodhi, Dr Sodhi’s Enhancers